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Why Some Autistic People Need a Purpose to Leave the House
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Why Some Autistic People Need a Purpose to Leave the House

For some autistic people, leaving the house isn't about anxiety or not wanting to socialise. Sometimes, they simply need a reason to go out. Having a clear purpose, such as work, meeting someone or doing something they enjoy, can make leaving home much easier. Understanding this can help us look beyond assumptions and better understand the different ways autistic people experience the world.

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Why I Became a Counsellor!
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Why I Became a Counsellor!

After discovering I was autistic at 30, I began to understand why my own experience of counselling hadn't worked for me. That experience ultimately inspired me to become the counsellor I wish I had met, someone who listens without judgement, understands neurodiversity and adapts therapy to the person, rather than expecting the person to fit the therapy. Today, I use my own experiences to help others feel understood, accepted and able to be themselves.

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Growing Up Autistic Without Knowing: Finding Out I Was Autistic at 30
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Growing Up Autistic Without Knowing: Finding Out I Was Autistic at 30

Growing up, I always felt like there was something different about me, but I didn’t understand why. From struggling with school and social situations to finding my emotions difficult to understand, many things only started to make sense when I was diagnosed as autistic at 30. In this personal blog, I share my experience of growing up without knowing I was autistic, why I decided to seek a diagnosis while preparing to get married, and how counselling can help adults understand their neurodiversity and themselves with greater kindness.

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When You Don’t Feel Seen: How Counselling Can Help Autistic People
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When You Don’t Feel Seen: How Counselling Can Help Autistic People

Being autistic can sometimes mean feeling unseen or misunderstood. Comments like “you don’t look autistic to me” can be difficult and can make you question your own experiences. In this blog, I explore what it can feel like to live in a world that does not always understand autism, the impact of masking, and how counselling can provide a safe space to be heard and understood.

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Living as a High-Functioning Autistic Adult in a World That Doesn't Always See Me
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Living as a High-Functioning Autistic Adult in a World That Doesn't Always See Me

Many autistic adults appear to be coping on the outside while quietly managing constant pressure beneath the surface. This blog explores what it's really like to live as a high-functioning autistic adult, the hidden challenges that often go unnoticed, and how understanding, acceptance, and counselling can make a meaningful difference.

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